Hey friends and family! IT'S BEEN A MINUTE....
Wow- I cannot believe that it's been since May that we have posted an update. Honestly, we have had SO much happening in the last few months, it's been hard to catch our breath. In order for you to understand our journey thus-far, we thought it would be best to spell out all that has been happening in chronological order starting where we left off in May.
May- Remember when we announced our adoption in April and said we were officially taking a break from IVF and fertility treatments?! Well, once again, God laughed. Two weeks after we announced our adoption, we got a call from the Business Manager of our fertility practice, Midwest Fertility. He was calling to tell us some grim and very stressful news. You see, when we signed up for IVF, we entered into a risk management agreement with a third party "lender". As you know, IVF is not sure proof and many couples require multiple cycles to achieve a successful pregnancy. To put it plainly, one IVF cycle is around 25k so we needed to be wise with our money.
When we started IVF, we looked at our diagnosis and decided to enter into a three-cycle risk program at a slightly higher cost. In this program, you pay a third party (Attain Fertility) for a bundle of three IVF cycles. You do not directly pay your fertility practice. If you get pregnant on your first cycle, then you are withdrawn from the program and cannot use the consecutive two cycles. It's like gambling. SO... we decided to pay the extra money to get the "best bang for our buck."
Here's where it gets interesting...... in late April, our practice called us and told us that Attain Fertility (part of IntegraMed) filed for Chapter 11 Bankruptcy and had liquidated all of our money, and our remaining IVF cycles were lost. We got screwed.... Midwest (and our doctor, Dr. Bopp) were devastated for us and their many patients that also lost their cycles and large monetary investments. There was nothing Midwest could do to get our money back from this third party program. We looked into lawyers but ultimately, we would lose.
So, that meant that unless we forked up another 25k to our fertility practice, we had no more chances of having biological children in the future. By a sure act of God, our fertility practice was so kind to honor what we had previously contracted with Attain Fertility by gifting us a free stimulation round, but we had to do it as soon as possible. You guys, this meant Midwest Fertility felt so sorry that Attain took our money and ran that they gave us a free IVF round at 100% cost to Midwest. We did not pay a dime..... Do you know how crazy that is in the medical world!? It's unheard of.
In summary, we knew that most of our summer would be spent doing IVF and trying to produce more healthy embryos for a chance at biological kids further down the road.
June- June was an amazing month for us. We were stir crazy from quarantine so we loaded up Bear in the car and drove down to Florida to work remotely for about two weeks. The change of scenery was amazing and we were able to unwind from the stress of being cooped up for most of March, April and May. When we got back from Florida, we started prepping for IVF again. About 60 hormone injections and a lot of tears later, we were ready for July's egg retrieval!
We also started (and finished) our baby nursery! It's a neutral mountain theme and a labor of love! I have been truly "nesting" as they call it.
In adoption news- June was spent applying and also turning down many adoption situations. For several reasons, these situations were just not a good fit. It was HARD to be so close to potential babies (some already born), and know that God was telling us to say no and wait for another situation. We said no to probably five situations, and other times we were simply not chosen. June was BUSY. We talked to so many expectant mamas (and some scammers) that it felt like a part time job. We would be presented with emails about "baby due next week- URGENT REQUEST" and we would get so excited. We would imagine every situation and how it would all come together, just to be softly reminded by God that this wasn't the baby He had for us. It was hard but there was a peace in it.
July- In July we celebrated our third wedding anniversary and experienced some of our biggest blessings to date.
We also completed our third round of IVF (the free round gifted to us by Midwest Fertility). I want to point out that when COVID started, fertility practices were shut down nationally. These doctors lost a tonnnnn of money during those months. In no way did our amazing Dr. Bopp owe us anything when Attain filed for bankruptcy. But God was moving....
Dr. Bopp and the staff at Midwest have such amazing hearts that they gave us another chance at a miracle... and we will forever be grateful. At the end of our third round of IVF, we are happy to report that we have FIVE beautiful and genetically tested embryos. We have FIVE beautiful chances of having bio children later on in life. Right now our "embabies" are frozen in a lab and we can return to them when we feel ready to pursue fertility treatment again. Right now, all of our attention is focused on adoption and it feels so good to FINALLY give my body a much needed rest.
In early July we were almost overwhelmed with how busy our adoption situation was getting. We prayed for God to give us a miracle or a sign for our anniversary. For many reasons, I can't disclose details as to what is happening in our lives but please know that we are amazed with the way it is all being worked out. Our current situation is unconventional even for the adoption world, but it is special and beautiful.
August- August was the due date of our miscarried baby. Ironically, on our due date, we were surprised with really exciting news. God is in the details and I can't wait to share them with you all someday soon!
Similar to how pregnancy after loss would feel, adoption after loss and infertility is hard. Sometimes it is scary to talk about exciting things happening because you are so used to heartbreak that you almost expect more heartbreak. Sometimes it feels certain things are "too good to be true," so you just keep your head down until you someday have a baby in your arms.... We have really been trying to let joy be joy, and enjoy the journey.
September- We are really looking forward to September. We have big plans and exciting events coming up.
Again, I apologize for being so cryptic but adoption is tricky and sharing too much can put certain situations at risk. For now, please continue praying for baby Herron, our expectant mama and our adoption. We have a long way to go and we continue to feel every prayer.
As a side note- our puzzle piece fundraiser is STILL a go! We finally received the puzzle from China in July. We will get around to putting it together with all of your names shortly :)
Written by Aubrey and Matthew Herron